I'm finding it hard to jive into a new routine with it being too cold to swim and school weeks not yet being standard. I'm moving, I'm eating, making choices that are mine whether or not they would be approved.
This week's topic: Negativity and a lack of support can be the most crippling obstacle in any goal, especially when it comes to fitness and health. This week, FitPoint wants to know about some of the negativity you have faced as a result of your goals (and results) and how you deal those situations. What gets you through the storm clouds?
I was going to ignore this week's Fit Point because it seemed to difficult of a subject for me. I was afraid that once I started, I wouldn't be able to stop. I am faced with negativity on a daily basis that most people would never tolerate, but that is an extremely private matter, and a personal choice that most people may not make. That said, there is an example today from the blogosphere that I can share.
Today a total stranger implies that I'm a lunatic because I am not one-sided. I refuse to live an "all or nothing" life. In the past, he has ridiculed my philosophy of weight loss and healthy living, along with that of many others. I often agree with some of his points, but not necessarily his delivery. I will stick up for him (and anyone) when I believe they are right and I will criticize him (or anyone) when I feel they've done wrong.
I like to believe that this today's comment was said in fun. I try to remember that, but I'm human and obviously sensitive. When I commented on that post and the blogger chose not to publish my self-effacing comment, I began to realize maybe it was not so much to be funny, but an actual opinion of me. Again, this may all be in my imagination due to my anxiety disorder or it may be quite a valid sensitivity. It is quite possible that I have, as Merriam-Webster's describes it, intermittent insanity based on the cycles of the moon. My doctor calls it PMS, not lunacy, though. I'm pretty sure anxious and hormonal does not equal crazy. I suppose it can appear that way to some.
So anyway . . . how do I deal with it?
First, a little background: I freely admit that I have anxiety issues, and there are few people with whom I choose to share my whole story. My deepest emotional struggles are not the worry of the blogosphere, nor the business, nor the problem. I realize that we each have our own baggage and I respect that. I believe in the inherent worth of every human life. I believe people should be treated with respect and dignity. I'm imperfect, but I try to live up to my own expectations, not anybody else's. I'm criticized sometimes for seeing varying points of view, for defending myself or others. But, I will not give undue loyalty where it is not deserved. My closest friends know that I will always be honest with them and tell them what they need to know. If I believe they are wrong, I will stand beside them and allow them that privilege, but I won't lie and say that I'm on their side or agree with them when I don't.
I expect to be treated with that same dignity by each of my friends. Those expectations are not always met, and instead of turning bitter and insulting them, I keep in mind that they are human and have their own schism, their own framework of life from which they are viewing things. Yes, they may attack me and treat me negatively. I may be hurt, disappointed, or angry. But, in the end, I choose my reaction even if it is no reaction whatsoever. At the same time, for the most part, I give the person the benefit of the doubt, bolster up my compassion and continue to live my life. Their opinion is not my problem and I cannot, or will not attempt to, alter their opinion by being somebody other than myself.
I have come a long way and I continue to grow and strive to be a person that my daughter can remain proud of daily. I'm imperfect, I realize this. I am a work in progress.
The Fit Point of the Week is similar to Wordless Wednesday, New Friend Friday, etc. We supply a topic, and you write about it! Pretty easy eh? And it’s a free topic you didn’t have to think up! Of course, come back every week for a new topic too!
The Rules
•Write a Post related to the topic. It doesn’t have to be exactly on point but it does have to be relevant.
•Link the person you discovered it from. (optional)
•Use the Banner, linking back to Fit Blogs, and share the rules on your blog.
•List yourself here!
•Comment on the person before you in the list!
The point?
It opens up a little creativity, and it’s free networking! Get some new visitors, new followers, or subscribers!
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