Liars piss me off. Whether the purpose of the lies is self-agrandizement, self-protection, or just ignorance - it is never done with positivity and compassion.
Here is the BS that our good pal Allan is spewing about me today:
"My favorite thing to read is someone like Lanie , who at almost 250 pounds decided she is not obese, and can eat as she wants."
And here is my response which, as usual, will likely not be published over there:
"As much as I adore you, Allan, it really pisses me off when you lie. Especially when you lie about me. What's the purpose of that? To make yourself look smarter than me? To make me seem stupid? That's about as fucking disrespectful as it gets. You're not stretching the truth or exaggerating to make a point here. You are lying."
Before you post shit ALLAN, read a little about what you are talking about, in case someone listens to you. Facts count. And the facts are that I weighed 289 lbs when I began eating intuitively. And now I weigh 243.8 lbs. That's a total of nearly 45 lbs, 30+ since I started blogging about it, as my badge here says. I have NEVER said that I am not obese. I am SEVERELY obese which is progress since I started out as MORBIDLY obese. I will be OBESE for a long time to come, but not forever.
I'm not quite sure where our buddy gets his "facts" about Geneen Roth books because they certainly are not from reading her work. He claims he respects people who are losing weight no matter what their path is, but then insults their intelligence whenever they are using something that he himself would not be capable of handling. Yes, in theory, eating what we wanted is w hat got us here in the first place but the POINT is that we don't really want that shit in our bodies. It takes strength of character and self-discipline to properly follow through with intuitive eating and it will NOT work for everybody. Some people need strict guidelines, keeping track and counting and that's FINE. We are all different people with different needs. Why is that not okay?
Allan sometimes likes to discriminate against housewives and imply that they are stupid. I will let my IQ shine against his any time. Because my career of choice right now is being dedicated to my daughter doesn't mean that it is all I am capable of or all that I ever have been or will be. My family is my priority and it makes us all happy. Helping out in our community through volunteering at the church, school, Kids for Peace, girl scouts, and other organizations is more important to me than having 2 shiny new cars in the driveway or expensive family vacations, and that's what being a SAHM is about, not soap operas and bonbons and low intellect.
Allan's diet works. There is no doubt about that. He admits that it's not the only way. He says he's proud of anybody making progress. But he likes to imply that I, and others, are not making progress our way, when we clearly are. He and I have different limitations and one of mine is dear and precious to me.
I have a 9 year old daughter and it is my responsibility to give her the tools she needs to grow up in a world that sucks without ending up hating herself or her life, or hating others for that matter either. I take my responsibility VERY seriously and I am showing my daughter that her choices NOW and every moment of every day are building the life she will have as an adult. Food choices are part of that. So is exercise. If I set an example of having to weigh out each portion of my food and keep a written record of how many points or calories I consume, it could very well lead to her belief that she has to do the same thing. She knows, however, that she can have treats and enjoy them because she burns a lot more calories than mom does, and she needs a lot more to grow. She understands that what others call "comfort food" will undoubtedly make her uncomfortable after eating it. She often will accompany me to my doctor's visits and our doctor will also talk about obesity and how I'm doing and she involves the kid in "project mom". Kiddo understands that MY poor choices got me to 289 lbs and that my good choices have gotten me to where I am today and will help me continue towards a healthy, longer life. This, is more important than losing weight as quickly as possible. My child is my legacy to the world. What will you leave behind, Mr. Klein? A fancy restaurant that continues to help people reach incredible levels of obesity?
My daughter also knows that I love and tolerate all types of different people. We gain spiritually from every friendship that we make, regardless of that person's background, race, religion, or home. But most of all, she knows that I will stand up for myself and for her because we are worth it.
For the record, here is what intuitive eating led me to consume yesterday:
1 12 oz can of Pepsi 150 calories
1 granola bar 170 calories
Steamed broccoli florets 44 calories
Applesauce 69 calories
Potato Crusted Flounder 178 calories
1 12 oz can of Dr. Pepper - a rare treat! 150 calories
Those are the calories that I can account for easily because they were either pre-packaged or restaurant food with numbers provided. Then I went to a picnic in my hometown where I ate the following: 1 plain 1/4 lb sirloin burger on a *gasp* light white bread bun, I Tbsp of cheesey (!) hashbrown casserole, 1/2 tsp of lemon dip with 2 sections of graham cracker and 1 piece of baklava smaller than my thumb pad.
I also easily drank 11 glasses of water if not more.
From yesterday to today - I had a loss of 1.1 lb.
I did some leg lifts and stretching yesterday, but not my regular exercise because being in the car for a coupla hours to celebrate with my mom took quite a bite out of my day time-wise. I don't lose over a pound every day eating intuitively, but I don't expect to either. I do weigh myeslf daily, as I said before. I could've worked out when I got home instead of talking to my husband, or I coulda skipped church in order to make more time for exercise. I chose not to do either of those things. I'm ok with that.
So enough of the bullshit, big Al, you can disagree with me all you want but use the FACTS that you claim you are so fond of, one of those facts being that what I'm doing is working for me. It's well researched and well thought out. Your 10 guidelines of intuitive eating aren't from Roth's books. I realize I'm obese. These are just a few contradictions that I know of from your assertions today.