Teller of untruths, Teller of untruths, may your trousers combust spontaneously!

Lies and the big fat liars that tell them. What should we do about them? Particularly here in blogland? And what should we do when people give ultimatums akin to a second grader saying "I won't be your friend if you play with Suzie!"

Seriously, I've been disappointed by bloggy friends  who follow those who trash me, my lifestyle, my physician-endorsed health plan, and my friends. But know what? That's their choice.

I can totally understand wanting to hide from bullies, changing your blog and your blogger ID to protect yourself, and I can even understand the struggle between wanting to protect oneself that way and wanting to stand up for oneself as well. I'm a pretty understanding person. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. I see the good in most people, even when it is overpowered by negative.

I understand that narcissistic personality disorder can be really difficult to live with and it takes all my compassion to meditate for loving kindness towards people who experience it. What I can't understand is why somebody tells lies to garner sympathy for themselves and play the victim. Why not let it go and focus on your own success and happiness instead of trying to discredit others and play the GW Bush "if you're not with me, you're against me" card. Really? Who does that serve? How do you grow as a person if you surround yourself with "yes men" and people who fawn over your adoringly never questioning anything you say or do?

Personally, I value friendships that challenge me and encourage me to think outside my own narrow experience. I thrive on them actually.

But I'm curious about your opinions, my bloggy friends, how do YOU think this kind of stuff should be handled? And, do you handle it the way you would advise your children to handle it on the playground?

~~~We now return to our previous program, already in progress~~~

Edited to add: For the record, I never denied welcoming Darla back to blogland. I don't know where that accusation came from at all. It's just another way of his misrepresenting the truth.

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Fake it 'til you make it!

Not a new concept.

To be healthy, live healthy.  Each of  us that is trying to make positive change in our lifestyle is doing this.  I certainly haven't got the market cornered on this.

I want to be a person who makes good choices in life, who makes mindful decisions about all kinds of things, including what I put in and on my body.  I may not LOOK like a person who does this right now. I may be the "fat chick" giving advice that obviously hasn't gotten me thin (yet), but I will be.