I like to bop around from blog to blog and find new inspiration from other weight-loss/healthy lifestyle-type bloggers. Lately, though, I've run into a bout of negativity and hostility that simply astounds me.
I don't understand why there is such hostililty against obese people on some of the blogs I've been reading lately. I don't think we ever HAVE to be mean or to humiliate people to get our point across. I don't think we can ever hope to make a postive change for anybody using negativity. Never has profanity or SHOUTING given me the motivation I need to make good choices. I doubt that many obese people are very unlike me in that way.
These people will call out other bloggers and link to their supposedly pompous attitudes, or else they will spout off about people in Wal-Mart using motorized carts with 100-calorie snacks in them.
I'd like to think that they wouldn't say such things to a person's face, but what if . . what IF that person behind you in line at WalMart gets online tonight and goes searching for some answers about weight loss? If they would run across that blog, would they be inspired, or humiliated and discouraged? If it were me, I'd feel like a worthless loser with no excuse to live. Then I'd go eat. And eat and eat. Why not? I'm already a "fat lazy slobbish pig who just can't say no to donuts" in their words.
Why should somebody else's issues make people so angry? When they see these obese people they may be already on their journey down. Most of the bloggers that spew this hatred have been there themselves, and many still are quite obese and yet they seem to have no compassion for others in the same situation? These people are obviously already hurting and struggling. Will anger help anyone become motivated to realize they are worthy of a better lifestyle? Aren't there better ways to influence people to do the right thing?
It seems to me that this misplaced aggression (and I'm no psychologist) is merely a relflection of their anger at *themselves* for having let their own body size get out of control. Yes, they are making better choices now, but if it was so easy, why didn't they do it 100 lbs ago? or 250? or whatever? They should absolutely have pride in their own successes so far, and they should shout from the rooftops that it can be done. But they should also remember that empathy is a great and powerful tool to win respect and cooperation from others.